Love and What Lies Within Us... Many of us forget who we are and instead impose upon ourselves the…
Many of us forget who we are and instead impose upon ourselves the image other people have assigned to us. Rather than drawing strength from our own self-confidence, we try to find comfort in the trust others place in us. Rather than focusing on ourselves, we agonize over what others think of us. As a result, without even realizing it, we go about wearing the masks that society has fitted onto us.
Yet what truly matters is the journey we take within ourselves, accompanied by our own thoughts. What you feel and experience toward the person you love are beautiful, deeply human emotions.
You should think about the positive things the relationship you are living brings you. In other words, if you look at the glass as half full, you can discover the potential within yourself.
Your own potential is your true identity, and bringing out the strength within you is in your own hands. Without being aware of your own identity, it is not really possible to understand or make sense of love and affection. Searching for this in others and waiting for their compliments is nothing but a waste of time.
To live a life at peace with yourself, you need to journey into your own depths often. Breathing deeply, being grateful, being at peace with yourself, and loving yourself, nature, humanity, and the people who are or whom we wish were in our lives—these form the foundation of living a life at peace with yourself.
Only by doing so, and in wholeness, can you kindle the flame of love within you. There will always be certain feelings we hold especially for one person. Love is thought to have a certain hormonally determined duration. What makes it possible to sustain love permanently depends on people being able to transform this feeling into affection and communicate with one another. A person’s inability to share what they want to say with anyone can justify sharing it with someone special.
Many of us, back when we were university students, shared our feelings and thoughts in their purest form with those closest to us. As time passes and relationships become routine, I know many people who can no longer talk, share, or express themselves, and instead keep everything bottled up inside.
Thanks to the person we love and share our life with, we discover ourselves and find the self within us. What we experience together is so beautiful that I don’t know how much of it we, or you, are truly aware of...
If today, on the occasion of February 14th, you truly cherish the relationship you are living, are living now, or dream of living, and feel it from your depths, and can breathe deeply, at peace with the child within you, how fortunate you are.
Using today as an occasion, you can start your day by telling your partner, spouse, or loved one: it is you who brought out who I am, and for that I thank you again and again... If this relationship has helped you rediscover so many things you had lost deep within yourself, cherish it and do not let it wear thin—on the contrary, nourish it.
It is not possible to nourish this relationship by remembering it only once a year. But it is also not possible to reach the destination without taking the first step. Growing, beautifying, and making lasting this deep love and affection you are experiencing is in your hands. Even a flower withers if you never water it. Start today discovering the child within your loved one and the perfect, endless light inside them, and let this curiosity for discovery grow day by day. If you do this, rest assured that at the destination you reach, you will find yourself saying: ‘‘Thanks to you, I am rediscovering the value of so many things about myself. Every part of me that had withered has begun to find life again...’’
In truth, we make love and affection lasting not when we live them for the person across from us, but when we live them for our own inner peace, our own state of mind and spirit. Loving and nourishing yourself...
Every circumstance of life, good and bad alike, is our own creation and belongs to us. When you look around you, every detail—positive or negative—that catches your eye in that moment is our own creation. For example, the marks we leave on nature, our quality of life, our initiatives in the political and social sphere, and, as a society, the traditions generally attributed to all of us, and the habits that form afterward. Many similar patterns of behavior constantly reflect the general character of the society we keep referring to and always find ourselves within.
So, without realizing it, we carry many masks at once. Masks become part of our lives. Sometimes, without realizing it, in a group we have entered without noticing, we display the behavior expected of us, without being aware of it, because masked behaviors have become firmly rooted in our subconscious and are shaped by the environment we find ourselves in.
Taking today, February 14th, as a reference point, how about we start the day by permanently setting aside a few of these masks we have acquired?
May your love be constant and endless…
Dr. Hüseyin NAZLIKUL
IFMANT = President of the International Federation of Neural Therapy
President of the Scientific Neural Therapy and Regulation Association